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Fatherlessness and my A.D.D

     I was talking with my son today about the world and how not everyone is fortunate enough to grow up with a loving dad. A loving dad who plays basketball with them every single day after work. A father that will turn on music and dance like a dork just to have fun with his kids. Or a daddy who will stomach (literally) several kicks to the groin just because his kids want to wrestle. I am not perfect but I do all of those things just because I know what it is like not to have that love from a father.

Don’t get me wrong, I still had family in my life but just a different kind. I lost my immediate family at 5 years old but a giant, loving family was already being orchestrated for me by my Heavenly Father. My grandparents raised me and did their best and did a great job. I just wasn’t the easiest kid to raise. And my grandparents hadn’t picked up the latest copy of ‘How to raise a little kid who is a sole survivor of a family/murder suicide’. (Note the sarcasm!) My grandpa did a great job of playing catch with me out in the yard every now and then and as an adult with kids of my own, those memories are still close to my heart. I want my kids to have those memories. OH MAN! Did I get sidetracked again. Sometimes reading the blog of someone who has A.D.D and, who knows what else, can be interesting.

In fact, anytime I email friends, I always add a code word at the bottom just so I can make sure they read my whole email because my intentions are to keep it brief but once I start writing, I can’t stop. (Isn’t that a Miley Cirus song?) #sidetrackedagain

Back to the lecture at hand (90’s Hip Hop reference), this was supposed to be about how I got the opportunity today to talk with my son about being a father and mentor to someone. How, even though I didn’t have that so-called father in my life, I had several people in my life that stepped up as mentors and helped me in my times of need. I thank God for the father/son moments where I can share some of my limited wisdom with my oldest son as we shoot hoops or other activities. I will attach a documentary about fatherlessnes that I was a part of a few years ago. Check it out if you haven’t seen it. There are some great stories in the film. I recommend the whole movie but if you are short on time, my story starts at around 28 minutes. If you are still reading this, the code word is elbow. What the heck is the point of poison ivy? Anyone? -cK


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Happy 4th of July from me and Marvin Gaye

I love this version of our National Anthem. Enjoy

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The mind of a child


Sometimes when we think a child can’t pay attention to ANYTHING

We are wrong, they are too busy paying attention to EVERYTHING.

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Xray of bullet fragments still in the back of my head.

Bullet fragments in back of my brain from my dad's .38

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News footage from 1985



I think we need to learn the art of patience. We should apply discipline to our thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success. Lately, there have been a lot of things going on behind the scenes here. After the CNN article came out Read the rest of this entry »

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Thank You ALL…

Thank you everyone for the amazing comments. In the last 4 days this blog has received 45,000 views. That is awesome and is very much appreciated. I also saw that the CNN article was the most popular and most recommended story for Friday and Saturday. The first 4 days it had over 1.2 million views. Thank You Everyone. Hopefully this can shine light on the issue of the opportunity to travel and help others through Upward Bound Outreach. We have a trip coming at the end of September and the funds are not there yet but we are still planning the trip as these kids don’t deserve to miss this program just because we are still trying to get funds. If anyone can help or knows some one that would be interested then please contact Upward Bound Outreach, myself, or make a donation on our website. Thank you everyone for your comments that have astonished me. I have loved seeing all your own testimonies and speaking requests. I hope God gets all the glory for everything that is happening. -cK